Sistas before Mistas?

[Devenny]

Okay, i have a little guy and friend problem. It was a couple months ago that i admitted to my current best friend the person who i like. Only, shortly after i did tell her she started disliking the dude! I didnt understand; because before hand she appeared to care not, but now she's always glaring and ranting on about how much of a jerkface he is. =(

But he's not! I really really like him, because of how conversation. Our opinions are the same in so much stuff, and then the stuff that we dont agree on he agures really good about. ^^ I dont think that my friend is jealous--um, she's a girl and straight--but i dont know how to sway her. Both me and my crush are slightly insulting, but i think all she's seen of him is the bad side--though i even fancy the bad side... ^^;

I just dont know how to sway her; becaue even though my crush and i arent currently 'going out', he's hovering so i think that he might actually like me. ^^ But i dont know what to do if he might ask. =( They always say 'sistas before mistas' but is that really fair? =(

I dont know... it may not even happen. Just share with me, if you will, what you fellas would do in this sistuation. I patiently await your responsces, but am wary to my next day... *sigh*...

[say WHAT??]

That's soo not cool... Hm... Well, if it were me, I wouldn't care what my friends think. It's me who's gonna date the guy, not them. Yeah, I sorta had a similar situation. There was this guy, in my grade, but one of my friends was in the grade below me, and she dispised him cuz she never had a class with him, she didn't really know him... we never did go out ((me and him)) but we ended up, like, best friends.

Basically, why should you care what other's think? It's your guy, not theirs!!! It's not always 'sistsas before mistas', actually, I enjoy being around guys, they kinda hold me together, ya know?

[Devenny]

Yes, yes, i've always not cared for what others think as well, and i do a quite a lot of guy friends myself, but this is my only girl friend in real life, and there are just somethings that stop at what the other gender can do in a friendsie relationship.

The point is, i dont want to loose her. Yet i dont want to loose him as well. Because of my friend's psychic growling, i think that he's backed off a little. =( I've tried talking to her about it, but she just keeps on bring these little things that she dislikes about then that i do anyway! It makes no sense...

She's nearly incoherent when it comes to the subject, so even she may not know. I dont know... im just hoping it will all work out for itself because there's a dance coming up at my school and i kinda wanted to go with him. ^^;

There's not alot of good 'hold you together' guys at my school anymore. =( Either they just try to 'hold you together' physically (*le barf*) or they're in a gang. As my location states, i live in the ghetto. Not that that's bad, but when all the dudes around you have baggy pants and long shirts it hard to pick out the good from the bad ducks.

So i really want to keep her, but i really want to get him, and the whole sistuation makes me feel selfish and self-centered because: what if he doesnt even care at all and all this argument that going on between me and my chika is pointless in the end?

I didnt like the dude that she liked... and he ended up breaking her heart. =( I just need help on explaining to her how he's a good person; because i think that she's afraid of me getting hurt again...